Skate Life

It breaks my heart....

I'm a girl who was basically raised like a boy. No- scratch that- more correct i was raised like a person. No telling me "you cant play there cuz boys do that" or "you should do this cuz its what girls do". Therefore, I developed a very equality attitude about lifestyles and things I consider normal. When I go to school I'm constantly reminded that some people were raised in sexist homes. People who don't see you for you, but for your sex. Some who have been raised to be like the son or daughter they really wanted, leading them to develop a very serious identity crisis. I have friends who don't let me carry heavy things, or do certain chores just because I'm a girl. It makes me ve--ry angry and it downright depresses me. Because it's very stupid stuff anyone can do. I was raised to be strong not frail. A real woman is not measured by her cooking skills, or her physical weakness. She's measured by her will power, her heart, her personality, her strength and downright your belief in her self. A real woman doesn't need to restrain herself from saying something she thinks, because others might think she should just stay quiet and look pretty instead. i real woman asks for help because she recognizes she needs it, like any other reasoning living creature. Not because she doesn't want to look manly doing it. A woman is a woman even if she doesn't meet society's current criteria for the term. Because it's what you do, and feel hat counts. Girls who are afraid to be singled out dress up and act like all the other girls around them do, because its what they consider the norm. Well guess what honey? Your not the norm. You are a fake product of the media. Not all girls truly enjoy meaningless gossip, rumors, shopping and lipstick. Not all girls listen to Avril Lavigne and act "punk" to break from the "norm". You need to be you. This is something I know very well, and yet I'm forced to close my eyes when I see the world around me because it hurts too much. Knowing such an amazingly small amount of people pretend to understand what I'm talking about- and an even smaller % actually do. It breaks my heart to feel I'm treated inferior to my other guy friends simply because I'm not a guy. Men and Woman are different. And we should embrace that. Love being who you are. But don't turn it in to something that restricts you. Don't make your self believe it's something that makes you better than the other sex. It brakes my heart more than anything that no matter how I try to articulate my feelings in to paper or a digital screen, I will never be able to convey my painful feelings through words. They always escape my mind and hide in abstract places hard to reach. This is not liberalism. I simply realize I will not be able to reach the places I want because someone decided girls are not supposed to have such dreams and ambitions, and it makes me give up on the "real" world. God never intended it to be like this. Sorry I probably sound all emo! ^_^'' Not intended! >0<'''

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Permalink Reply by Sara Rozic on June 30, 2009 at 3:34am

You should never give up on the real world. Never.
sometimes its cruel I know but didnt you say before that a woman is measured by her power her heart her personality and her strenght ? So never quit. I cant tell thinks like I know how you feel cuz I dont know. All I can tell you is that people are different..some will accept you for what you are and some wont. Its just the way it goes. So dont bother with jerks just go on and leave them behind.....
When I was reading your post I had a flash back at times when i was in elementary sql and I also acted like a boy sometimes... i listened to eminem, I sk8boarded and I wore baggy jeans and stuff..sometimes some boys told me I was a boy but I just ignored him or smiled like what do u care...but as much as I recall ppl didnt really bother about my style..cuz it was mine.. now i cant say that Im changed...well I do love lipsticks and stuff sometimes..girls stuff but I also like doing things that boys do--aka "dangerous" things..:D So my advice to you would be dont take others shit.. ppl who joke about other ppl are the most weak and insecure one, so dont care about them and stay with your buddies :)

I really trully hope I helped you or lit a little light inside your dark self..cuz the letter sounded pretty depressed...
..anyway is it true that girls listen to Avril and act punk to break the norm..I mean sorry but who listens to Avril nowadays? XD

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Permalink Reply by Leah on June 30, 2009 at 9:17am

hey girl, I agree with almost all of that! I know I get really upset being a the manager of my stage crew and knowing how to use power tools, and not being able to use them in volenteer work because people think Im not as able as the guys. That stuff reallly pisses me off. Same with weight training, Im a gym rat and love to work out, so when I went to my school gym yesterday and worked out with about 50 football guys the coach hinted I should join one of the girl classes he coaches, but I love working out with guys. lol the world can get so sexist, we just have to stick to gether, stay close with our guys and show these people that girls are just as capable. and most of all with sk8ting. (:

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Permalink Reply by Melanie De Jesús on June 30, 2009 at 9:38pm

thnx alot! ^_^'' I really didn't mean to sound depressive! Its just I get a little serious when i write. but i get what you mean. Sometimes I forget how big the world can be! =D

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Permalink Reply by Melanie De Jesús on June 30, 2009 at 9:42pm

Aw it must be very annoying! (the tool thing i mean) Wow your the manager of ur stage crew! Sounds like an great job! =D Whats it like?
I'm happy to see you sound so much like me and y sisters lol ! ^0^V (I completely understand what you mean about the workout thing! \o0o/ )

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Permalink Reply by Xiiao Amber Leikario on July 4, 2009 at 11:53am

you go girl.. but i guess my life is worse.. im not allowed to skate.. but at my age the more im not allowed to the more my passion for skating gets.. till nw my friends have their own skate(apair of freestyle and a pair of aggro) their parents bought for them.. for me.. im just like a kid waiting for one day when money rains prolly then i can get my skates.. now im using my friends RECREATIONAL skates..sometime i borrow their aggro skates to practice more often but it gets harder everyday too and cause im a girl, worse, my parents think i shouldnt be playing such harsh "games" count ur self lucky u can skate too
so main point = lifes not fair to anyone either
:D cheers

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Permalink Reply by Melanie De Jesús on July 4, 2009 at 6:17pm

I never said life was fair... I didnt write this to complain about how miserable my life is, Its just my thoughts on a sertain part of life. You shouldn't compare your life to others by saying my life is worse. Dont worry though!. It was just like that for me at first also (money has alwayse been a big problem in my family). But one day the chance came, and I was able to buy a pair of basic skates. Im sure ull get the chance too. ^_^ Till then keep practicing!! Once you get ur skates you can show off what you learn on a pair of brand new skates!! XD